The gift of motherhood is priceless. It is filled with many precious moments, laughter and tears, highs and lows and most importantly a unique journey for every family. Today we come together to show recognition and celebrate mothers everywhere. Is one day enough? But hey we are thankful that we have one day dedicated to shine the spotlight and show gratitude and appreciation to our very own superhero’s. There are numerous roles mothers play in our life, whether that be a counsellors, chef’s , advisor, personal chauffeur, nurses, therapist and let’s not forget the amazing mothers playing the role of fathers in their children’s lives. We honour you today!
We have the honour of hearing some gems from our very own U.G.LY tribe mothers and what they have learned during their journey of motherhood.
Paula Perry (@you4us_uk)
Motherhood has taught me that communication involves not only speaking but listening, listening to the spoken and the unspoken, listening to the body language and countenance. It’s the communication skills that have made me know that I need to send a uplifting message to lift their spirits when need, this had allowed my daughters to be open with me about all subjects and as adults still come for hugs when needed!
I have learned that the perfect mother doesn’t exist! Every child is different and requires different things, no manual can teach you that. You are simply learning on the job! For that reason alone, I am more forgiving of myself and understand mistakes are part of the process. This showed me how adaptable and patient my own mother was when raising my sisters and I. Three girls with three different personalities, all shown the same infinite love! You do not have to try to be a PERFECT mother, but LOVE makes a GOOD mother!
Letricia Black UGLY Tribe Founder
Motherhood is not linear it’s messy, scary and challenging. You feel like the eyes of the world are on you each and every day. You will learn about strengths you didn’t know you had and fears you never knew existed. There is no recipe on how to be a good mother, what works for one child may not work for another. I have learned that loving your child how they need to be loved at any given moment in time is one of the greatest gifts you can give as a parent . Motherhood is teaching the hard lessons, doing the right thing even when you don’t want to and forgiving yourself over and over again.
Delisa an U.G.L.Y graduate
Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had. You find parts of yourself you never knew existed. My journey as a mother has highlighted parts of myself, that has genuinely made me proud of myself.
What can I say about Motherhood. Well I wouldn’t say it’s easy, but I had a child whom I found was easy to mother. As a single parent, raising a daughter, I became her father, best friend, older sister & still remained her mother. Teaching her boundaries was the most challenging as I had several identities as described previously. There isn’t a book to teach you motherhood and yet we all seem to manage some how. There’s no such thing as the perfect mother. I either instinctively knew what to do, or I asked another mother’s opinion. Even after asking for advice ultimately the decision remains with the individual. So that being said I always try to stay true to myself. If at the end of the day I can think back on the events that took place, I wouldn’t have changed anything then. I made the best decisions that day. If on occasion I would have changed something said or done within that day, then I would work on a better outcome for the next time I faced the problem. Mothering is whatever decisions you think are best in the interest of your child/ren.
Such powerful words spoken by our mothers here in the tribe. In every situation there’s a lesson, it is so refreshing to read every encounter and pick up gems on the journey ahead. The journey of motherhood is so precious and unique lets continue to cherish the moments and celebrate mothers every day not just on mothers day. The reality is we wouldn’t be here today without our mother. Lets take a moment to also give thanks to mothers who are no longer with us, our memories with you continue to live in our hearts forever. We will be forever touched by your presence and forever blessed by the time we had with you.
Whether you are a mother, mother to be or a daughter there is something to take away from this post. We would love to know what your biggest take away was. Comment below your favourite gem/nugget that you have learnt or resonate with most.
By Chloe Wallace @connectwithchloe